I've mentioned that the
hubby and I like to play games before, right?
Well... we do!
When we first met, we talked about our likes/hobbies and proceeded
to find out that we were both big nerds. I had a vast amount of experience with
PC gaming and he loved console gaming. Some of my favorites were: Sims, Age of
Empires, World of Warcraft, etc. His favorites included: Ratchet and Clank,
Dynasty Warriors, Kingdom Hearts, Final Fantasy, etc. I was more familiar with
the Wii, and he was enamored by Sony and their PlayStation line;
however, we had both loved the Sega Genesis [and other older systems]. I wasn't
kidding when I said BIG nerds.
So, when we got married it wasn't difficult to accommodate
the amount of time we liked to game; in fact it might have been a little TOO
easy for us. This is not a bad thing!
I'm a firm believer in the phrase: "The family that plays together
stays together." [This can apply to board games, sports, video games,
etc.] When Eric and I game together, we have an amazing connection that comes
through, and it allows us to excel, not only with gaming, but with our
relationship!
Here is a list of benefits we have found as a gaming couple:
- Teamwork:
As in marriage, in the gaming world of co-ops, MMORPGs, and various
multi-players, it's immensely important to have a great sense of
teamwork. If Eric is weak in one area (ex. comforting/some forms of
communication) but I excel in that area, I should be doing all
that I can to complement/take care of that need. The same goes for
gaming.... If he's tanking and I'm his healer, I can't just wander off and
let him die! Knowing that someone is always there to have your back
boost confidence!
- Time alone/Time together: Married couples need time apart as much as they need
time together! We love the bond that forms while playing together, BUT we
also love that it can be an escape. For example: if I've had a rough day
at work, I may want to have some time to myself. So, I plug in my headset
and start gaming in my own little world. Eric understands because he does
the same thing to "decompress" after a long work day/week.
- Problem Solving:
As they do in all games with boss fights, strategies change with every
conflict and conversation we have in real life. Gaming as a
couple has given us a unique perspective on problem solving. When we first
encounter a new boss [conflict] in a game, we have to take the time to
figure out our strategy and practice patience. Once we have our strategy
down for that particular boss fight [conflict area], we are able to
one-shot it and move on. I know gamers will understand what I mean, but
for those who might not: it means that if my hubby and I have a conflict,
it might take time for us to figure out how to handle it. However, once we
take that time and figure out how to handle that situation, we can take
care of it quickly the next time a similar situation occurs [aka
"one-shotting the boss"].
- Getting to know each other more: Eric and I have known each other for just about 4
years and we have been married for almost 1 year. I feel like gaming has
provided a whole new level of intimacy/understanding for us. I have
learned that Eric likes to play a tank or healer because he is a protector
in real life. Now, Mr. EZ wanted me to include that he has learned about
me, "You are even more crazy than I thought you were" >_>
Thanks, love.
Our
unique perspective on our relationship and our understanding of game mechanics
has given us a completely new aspect to our marriage: Relationship Mechanics is
what I'll call it!
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Have you ever played games with your significant other? What was the outcome? What things do you enjoy doing with your spouse? Please leave me a comment and let me know! Also, if there is anything you'd like us to write about let us know! Look for more updates soon!